Forward Focus

I’m done wallowing in frustration and disappointment that my body failed to carry our third child. I considered writing a big, long blog post about that, but I’m not going to do it. No words exist to properly explain it to someone who has never been through it and anyone who has suffered a miscarriage knows the incredible impact of emotions. A lost baby’s life, however short it was, will never be forgotten. Until we meet again, sweet baby…


This blog has been deafeningly quiet because of the above. My fitness tanked this summer. At first because I was so exhausted from the pregnancy, and then the physical aftermath prevented me from doing much of anything for a few weeks. Then that was piled on by the (on-going) emotional aftermath, which has really just been a series of distractions I created for myself—car shopping, taking on extra shifts at my part-time job, taking on a second job as a Jamberry consultant, drinking too much coffee and wine, and eating too much processed crap. And so it’s no surprise whatsoever that I’ve been feeling like crap! It’s the junk I’ve been putting in that fuels the emotional junk that’s lingering inside.  And then because I feel so bad, I have no desire to work out and so I’m left just feeling bad about myself.

My body failed me so I’m going to fail my body.

Written like that it seems so stupid, and yet that’s exactly what I was sub-consciously doing. It’s a sick cycle, isn’t it? And so many of us (all of us?) fall victim to it at one point or another.

It’s okay to give yourself grace and recover emotionally from something that’s out of your control, but it’s a whole other thing when you start looking to anyone, or in my case anything, other than God to fix your situation.

At the most simplistic level, improving your healthy lifestyle comes down to knowing your self-worth. Knowing that you are loved and provided for, no matter your circumstance. Superficial foods get superficial results. Whereas putting in the effort to make clean, natural food choices will nourish your body and make it work better—notice I didn’t say look better! That will come in time, but this wonderful miracle of a body we were given to get through life, needs to be cared for to work at its optimal best physically and emotionally. Each component needs the other to be stable before change can happen.

And so I ask, who wants to join me in re-focusing on eating clean and being fit? I will re-commit to this blog and daily posts on Instagram. Let me know how I can best be an encouragement to you because in turn it will encourage me! Is it accountability, recipes/ideas, a meal plan, or a fitness plan?


Meridith Oram
Meridith Oram is an ACE-Certified Health Coach at Love Yourself Towards Healthy where she helps women heal their relationship with food, fitness and body image. She is also the creator of Gain Wellness, a 5-week behavioral change program to unlearn diet culture, stop negative self-talk and set wellness goals---not appearance goals. Follow Meridith at @loveyourself2healthy on all social channels.

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